[I honestly do not know what I did with Part I. I probably deleted it by accident or ate it.]
If you want your D-type to do something, you have to tell them or ask them. D-types don’t have special mind-reading powers. If they did, that would suck all the fun out of it. (lit: begging.)
“I wish my D-type would do xyz to me.” isn’t going to get you very far unless you open your mouth and tell them. If it’s fear that’s holding you back, write it down, hand it to them. We’re travelling back to a basic building block of communication. Relationships thrive on that. You wouldn’t be in a D/s relationship unless you discussed it in some form or another, right?
My Dominant often asks, “What do you want me to do?” not only because I think it’s hot she’s opening the floor to me telling her (or showing her, because I’m a very ‘hands on’ hohoho kind of girl.) but because SHE CAN’T READ MY MIND.
Something’s bothering me? I tell her. I need a fuck? I tell her. I NEED A FUCKING CUDDLE SESH? I TELL HER.
See where I’m going with this?
You want something? You tell or ask for it, and then you either discuss it, or your D-type will say, “Ok, next play session, we’ll work on that.” That being whatever it is you want more of or to start doing.