The Story – How We Met and How We Got Here…

Being the Valentine’s Day cynic I am, I figured I’d be nice though and allow those who enjoy it a blog post on how I first met Rin, and how we got to the place in time where we are now.

In the Beginning….

On June 10th, 2011 I remembered this pretty person passing me. I wasn’t in cosplay then, but I had to have their picture. They were cosplaying Oerba Yun Fang, one of my favorite characters from Final Fantasy XIII.

Later on that day, my friends and I finally got into our hotel room, and I was able to change. Be a bit more…recognizable.

I eventually found Rin again and was so overjoyed that every time we ran into each other, we hugged. Every time they put their arms around me, I felt this spark. A tugging feeling.

Unfortunately for me, they had a boyfriend at the time. And I too, was dating. That tugging feeling however, would not go away no matter how much I tried to ignore it.

The next day, I had gotten a photo with them.

More hugging. More tugging feelings.

More ignoring.

I remember standing on-line for a panel, somehow finding them on Facebook on my phone and sending them a friend request. A few minutes later they accepted it.

They were there. Always there. Somehow appearing. The tugging feelings. Still there.

Feelings I shouldn’t have when I’m attached to someone, and they, again, were too.

Throughout the rest of the year, we spoke every once in a while.

Eventually, they parted ways with their boyfriend. I remember silently thinking, “Yesssssss.” I know, this is probably horrible of me.

In May 2012, a few weeks before the next convention, they sent me a message on Facebook how excited they were to see me and meet up again. I gave them my phone number. and we started texting, nonstop. Almost every day.

The tugging feelings returned, but I again, suppressed them,

They and I spent a majority of the 2012 convention together, and when we were separated, we sent texts back and forth. They were my person with the sunshine hands.

I took every opportunity to hold those hands.

I got bold, and kissed them. I haven’t kissed anyone that wasn’t family since my first boyfriend in High School. Of course, it’s worth mentioning they weren’t my first same-sex kiss. Everyone’s kissed someone of the same gender identity if they played Truth or Dare or Spin The Bottle in their lives.

I remember inwardly screaming after I kissed them, that I couldn’t let this person get away.

On Sunday, June 10 2012, I fell ill due to adrenaline and an anxiety attack triggered from the hotel evacuating at about 3:30am due to a fire alarm. To this day we really don’t know what was the cause, but all we know that running down six flights of stairs was not fun.

I went home from the con early.

….And how we got here

Upon arriving home, those feelings that I’ve been suppressing and hiding eventually came to a head. I was left to my own devices to stew with these feelings.

I had three choices:

1. Let someone who was a little close to home, go

2. Continue what I had that had an uncertain future. The relationship had a rift in it from intentional lack of communication for almost two months on my previous partner’s part that I wasn’t alerted to beforehand

3. Let them BOTH go

I sent a long iMessage to my previous partner, outlining that if they hated me forever, I probably deserved it, but I could not go on suppressing my feelings for Rin like this, and broke it off. It was better than cheating, and I don’t cheat on people. I’ve been cheated on, I know how it felt. I’m not about to do the same thing to someone else.

The next day, things started to even out. I spent some time texting with Rin. We discussed what I was feeling for the past year, and about how our relationship would be essentially long-distance for a while. I was okay with this. If I was capable of handling a trans-Atlantic relationship, I could handle 100 miles or so of distance.

They eventually said,

“If you’re okay with it, then I’m okay with it.”

And that’s how exactly a year later from sending them a friend request on Facebook, I became their girlfriend.

June 11th, 2013 will be a year.

We’ll spend three days together two days before this milestone, and I can’t wait.

This is the person I plan to legally marry in the state of New York.

But we’re going to enjoy each other’s company for a while before we decide to make the marriage decision.

4 Comment

  1. aww what a cute love story!! I always like to think it was “meant to be” when you meant someone so randomly like that at a conference and esp when you can stay in touch throughout a whole yr like that and end up together now. congrats on a year!!

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  3. That is seriously amazing how you were able to stay in touch for a year before you guys got together. I love how you said you had those “tugging” feelings, like you were meant to be together. I think we can all relate to that with the ones we love. Such a beautiful story and I’m so happy for you guys! 🙂

    Thank you for linking up with Marriage Week!

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