[Sunday Stealing] Fiesty Twenty-five

Do you like to see it snowing outside?

yes!

Do you tell your family you love them enough?

the ones that matter, yes

Do you like getting jewelry or do you not wear any?

i do sometimes, it ebbs and flows

Do you watch a lot of NFL football?

noooooo!

Have you ever used the word ‘lame’?

all the time

Are you/Were you in a band? If so, what was your band name?

no

When is the last time you went to the doctor?

last week

Do you own any shirts with a peace symbol on it?

yes

Would you ever go to Japan?

heck yes!

What was the last thing you went to Walmart for?

bought the niece her first bike for her birthday

Ever gotten in a car accident?

yes

Have you ever been in a choir?

yes

Do you like the color of your eyes? If not, what color would you want them?

i’d like grey eyeballs

When was the last time you went ice skating?

literally a million years ago haha

Do you like to brush your teeth?

not really, but i kinda need my teeth so…

Have you ever had a surgery?

lots!

Do you look older or younger than you actually are?

WAY younger. youngest i had was 12, and recent restaurant visit i was asked if i wanted a kids’ menu. [i did.]

When is the next time you’ll be up on stage?

hopefully never ever again

Where did you spend your last birthday?

at home

What is the last show that you watched a full episode of?

New Girl on Friday while walking the treadmill

Do you know anyone who lives in Utah?

off the top of my head there is Angie and another Angie! Angiepoloza in Utah! [do i have any other followers in Utah?]

Is there anything you need to work on doing soon?

AnimeNEXT moolah saving

Do your feelings get hurt easily?

yep. :/

Do you, or do you know someone who has taken karate lessons?

i took taekwondo and kickboxing for a while until this girl nearly broke my legs in a grappling hold. my older brother has done karate though.

Were you ever a boy or girl scout?

no, but Fathership was a boy scout!

Children do not belong in Adult Spaces

this is something that has increasingly nagged at me, and i often thought about putting this on Tumblr where it actually belongs since that’s where the source of this post really comes from. i decided to put it here though, because i don’t have to hear backlash from 14 year old whiny pissbabies and their “daddies”.

Teenagers do not belong in the BDSM community.

is that font big enough for you? i hope so.

now i know you’re wondering, “Why do you even care, Kitty?” i care because it is EXTREMELY UNCOMFORTABLE when you have people ten years younger than you liking photos that are related to your kinky lifestyle and not only that, you got Tumblr recommending kinky blogs to me RUN BY MINORS.


“but eighteen isn’t legal age in my country!!!”

let me tell you something: Tumblr is based in the US, and abides by US Law, which means your legal age at 16 is moot. Legal age is 18 [eighteen] in the US.

also, a lot of you are getting age of consent and age of legality confused. yes, you can have sex at 16, but can you vote, buy cigarettes, porn or a lottery ticket? no child, you cannot. will a BDSM event or space let you in at your age of consent? HELL NO.

“i know to watch out for creepers.”

then why are you talking to a 45 year old man?

“we should be educating, not turning them away.”

i AM educating, by telling them to STAY THE FUCK AWAY until they’re eighteen. BECAUSE LAWS.

“BUT I’M NOT BEING SEXUAL!”

guess what? NEITHER AM I. sex in pet/little space squicks me out but guess what? sexual or not. STILL A KINK. KINK IS FOR ADULTS. if you say it’s not a kink when it’s not sexual you are ultimately erasing asexual kinksters and that is terrible.

YOU ARE A LITERAL CHILD, THERE IS NO NEED FOR YOU TO BE AGE REGRESSING. 

i am not “being a dick”. i am covering my own ass.


 

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(trigger warning: discussing legalities of sexual abuse, child pornography, and related)

So far, I’ve largely stayed out of the “underage little” conversation, only reblogging important posts and not contributing myself. That’s going to change. I am becoming increasingly concerned about what I see on my dash and across Tumblr, particularly with blogs and people creating what they call “safe spaces” and “communities for underage littles.”

There is no such thing as a safe community for underage littles. 

In short:

  • It is illegal to create adult-themed communities for minors. The caregiver-little dynamic is an adult kink that is a subsection of the BDSM community.
  • It is illegal to solicit minors to join your adult-themed community.
  • It is illegal to solicit minors for or provide to them obscene, kink-themed, or NSFW content. The content doesn’t have to have nudity or graphic sexual activity, or even be an image, to count as obscene material.

These activities are felonies in the U.S.
https://www.law.cornell.edu/uscode/text/18/1470
https://www.law.cornell.edu/uscode/text/18/2252
https://www.law.cornell.edu/uscode/text/47/223 (section D)

There are both federal and state laws against child pornography and distributing obscene materials to minors. Since you are reading this on Tumblr, you are using the Internet, and using the Internet to commit the above felonies means they are federal offenses. There may ALSO be relevant sexual abuse laws depending on your particular location.

It’s also important to note that the age of consent in your particular state has no effect in regards to the federal offenses regarding child pornography. That is, if the age of consent in your state is 16 and you send or solicit sexually explicit content of other 16-year-olds, it is still legally child pornography. Besides, the standard for obscene materials for children is lower than the standard for obscene materials for adults.

Besides besides, obscenity is partially judged by the average person in the area where the content was accessed, meaning you could be held accountable to the opinions of people in a city you’ve never visited. That also means that your own opinion is irrelevant when it comes to judging whether the content is obscene. That is out of your hands entirely.

If you are caught, you can face fines and years in prison. You may have to register on the sex offender list, and you will have a felony that shows up in any background check in any job you apply to.

This is incredibly serious. Minors, you can ruin your lives before they even start. Besides that, trying to participate means you’re putting adults in danger–adults who should have every ability to interact in adult-themed communities without worrying about underage users.

This may sound harsh, but it’s the truth. This is not bullying. This is not unwarranted exclusivity or jealousy. This is the law. Your opinion of the law does not affect the power it has.

Additionally, there is a legal distinction between doing things for yourself (tagging your Tumblr as adult-oriented and posting kinky content) and soliciting/actively interacting with minors (posting kinky content and saying ‘safe place for underage littles! please signal boost!’). That leads me to…

HOW TO PROTECT YOUR TUMBLR FOR ADULTS:

  • Make sure your Tumblr is marked as adult-oriented under your blog settings, even if you don’t post sexually explicit material. My tumblr is mostly text, cute outfits, and food, but I still tag it as adult-oriented because the caregiver-little dynamic is part of the kink community.
  • State your blog is for adults only. This may seem redundant, but it is far safer for you to have a public notice discouraging minors than to seem indifferent or accepting.
  • Mention your age in your description or about me (mine’s on my about page). Consider unfollowing or not following anyone who does not provide this information. Better to be safe than sorry, and far better to avoid active interaction with potential minors.
  • Remember that your only obligation is to yourself. It’s absolutely okay to restrict your activity or leave if this is no longer a fun, safe space for you. You may end up deleting your blog, password-protecting it, changing how you use Tumblr, making a new blog, whatever. That is up to you, to do what you need to do.
  • Flag any illegal or suspicious activity you see on your dash regarding minors in adult spaces. Click “Flag,” then “This violates Tumblr’s Community Guidelines.” Then choose “Someone is at risk of harm.” Select “Harm to minors” and then write a brief explanation of the problem (e.g. “This person is soliciting minors to join a kink community and share NSFW and sexually explicit photos of themselves” <—this is actually something I had to report, and the reason I am writing this post now).
  • If you see very serious or very worrying violations, you can take screenshots and report it to the DoJ. http://www.justice.gov/criminal-ceos/report-violations We have the ability to fight back against groomers, pedophiles, and those wishing to do actual harm. I truly hope that none of us have the need to contact the authorities, but the link is there.

HOW TO PROTECT YOURSELF FOR MINORS:

  • First of all, do NOT join any “underage little” groups. Even if you didn’t start the group, you can face the same legal penalty for providing obscene materials to or soliciting them from minors.
  • Remove yourself as an active participant from any kink-related communities. This is not just for yourself, but for the adults in the community. There is not a safe, legal way we can actively interact with you in a kink community until you are 18. Is 18 an arbitrary age? Maybe, but it is still the law and it still affects you even if you disagree with it.
  • Find truly SFW communities based off of your interests. For example, I’m a huge Disney freak, especially for the parks, and I love places like the DIS Boards, AllEars.net, or Yesterland. If you’re into stuffies, consider hanging out in knitting or craft forums where you can learn to make your own. There are countless venues to explore childlike interests in communities that are not BDSM-related.
  • Realize that I am talking to you not only as an adult to a child, but also as a human to a human. I do not want to see you get hurt or face lifelong consequences from an entirely avoidable situation. The only way to truly protect both minors and adults in the kink community is to keep underage people out. When you are 18, I would be the first to welcome you. But until then, for everyone’s sake, please stay out.

First Snow 2016

 

it has literally felt like a million years that we waited for snow in my area of the East Coast. i remember when i was a kid we’d always wake up to a white Christmas and we’d have snow days left and right. but with global warming [and people still clamoring it doesn’t exist.] our snowstorms end up later and later and our hot weather times get HOT AS BALLS.

my kidney infection is doing loads better, don’t let today’s Daily Pawtograph fool you. that was taken while i was still incredibly sick and in fact they’re queued up until the 24th. i’m kinda glad i did that otherwise i would be super behind this week and well…the challenge would be failed. i’ve already failed Listers Gotta List so i figured well, i got somewhat of one week done, i’ll just wait until February and try again.

it’s going to be a bit busy this week, tomorrow i’m going for a MUCH NEEDED hair cut and food shopping. Thursday i’m supposed to be going to the dentist for a couple fillings but i may reschedule as i’m still on the Cipro and i don’t really know how that and novocaine will play together and i really don’t want to be risking that crap. i’m already working towards the mend here BUT ALSO, Thursday is the last day i’ll be taking Cipro and then loading up on probiotics for about a week or two. i’m already taking them since my doc said it’s okay to, but increase the dose a bit after the Cipro is over. kinda in a headspace where i just wanna go, get it over with and then don’t have to see them again til June. don’t get me wrong, they’re great people…i just….hate the dentist.

i may just end up going. we’ll see, i’ll have to ask when they call to confirm if it’s a good idea.

[Saturday 9] Let’s Dance

i’m gunna admit that this week’s Saturday 9 is a bit tough to do, being a Bowie fan. 🙁

1) In this song, David encourages his partner to “put on your red shoes and dance.” When did you last dance?

it’s been quite a while, considering all my urinary tract issues! pretty sure i’ll be dancing once i finish the damn antibiotics though

2) Mr. Bowie recalled that he and choreographer Toni Basil developed a dance step now known as “the moonwalk” for his 1974 tour, nearly a decade before Michael Jackson performed “Billie Jean.” Can you think of something you should have gotten credit for, but didn’t?

details are fuzzy, but i’m pretty sure a school group project eons ago.

3) Similarly, the band Roxy Music was upset because Bowie copied their “catsuit look” for his own stage wardrobe and made it famous. What do you usually wear, Monday through Friday?

literally? pajamas. unless i have to leave the house. it’s literally just too tiring to get dressed every day. chronic illness SUCKS

4) David Bowie was particular about the aftershave he wore, and one of his favorites was by Guerlain. Do you regularly apply cologne or aftershave?

not regularly but i’m often sporting Victoria’s Secret Bombshell body mist that Rinny got for me

5) In school, David’s best subject was art. Think back to your own school days. In which class did you excel?

i was the bomb at science and history

6) In addition to art and music, David Bowie displayed a keen head for business, leaving a fortune of more than $600,000,000. Would you describe yourself as “good with money?”

hahahahahahahaha….ha….no, but i don’t completely blow it

7) Bowie also appeared in a variety of movies from The Man Who Fell to Earth to Zoolander. Who is your all-time favorite movie actor?

Aidan Turner

8) One of Bowie’s hits is “Life on Mars.” If you had the opportunity to travel into space, would you take it?

no there are xenomorphs out there. the queen wants to eat me!! [Alien reference…..gotta watch the movies!]

9) The creators of SpongeBob Square Pants are huge Bowie fans and were thrilled when, in 2007, he appeared in an episode. Sam suspects that she may be the only person who hasn’t seen that cartoon show. What about you? Have you ever watched an episode of SpongeBob, start to finish?

unfortunately, yes. it was painful. my nephew is obsessed with the show while i cannot stand it